Comments on: Don’t Defend Yourself, Your Friends Don’t Need It! http://1smartmom.com/2008/12/18/dont-defend-yourself-your-friends-dont-need-it/ Nurturing Moms from Marriage to Motherhood & Everything in Between! Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:46:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Kelly http://1smartmom.com/2008/12/18/dont-defend-yourself-your-friends-dont-need-it/#comment-19998 Kelly Fri, 19 Dec 2008 14:49:58 +0000 http://1smartmom.com/?p=687#comment-19998 Way to go Angel! Maybe in 2009 we can all walk this out together. You're starting to get it. It's not about anyone else, but you and God. He will take care of the rest.:) I Love You! Way to go Angel! Maybe in 2009 we can all walk this out together. You’re starting to get it. It’s not about anyone else, but you and God. He will take care of the rest.:)
I Love You!

]]> By: wanda http://1smartmom.com/2008/12/18/dont-defend-yourself-your-friends-dont-need-it/#comment-19977 wanda Thu, 18 Dec 2008 16:51:38 +0000 http://1smartmom.com/?p=687#comment-19977 I am blown away by your post. I could've written it myself. Just this past week my middle daughter (a sophmore in high school) had a terrible experience with her supposed BFF's! They had been doing little things to hurt her for a while...but the final blow was heartbreaking! They broke up their friendship with her claiming that she had made fat jokes about them. She also had problems hurting them repeatedly with her mean comments to them. Now....first...these girls are bullies! They both say the meanest things to her and everyone. Each of them continually make fat jokes about each other and other big people their size. It broke my daughter's heart. When she tried to reconcile with them....they were relentless and unforgiving (even though there was no truth to the claims!). It was a real eyeopener for her. You are so right......you cannot change anyone's mind....don't even defend yourself. Just apologize and move on. The choice to sin now belongs to the other person. I am blown away by your post. I could’ve written it myself. Just this past week my middle daughter (a sophmore in high school) had a terrible experience with her supposed BFF’s!
They had been doing little things to hurt her for a while…but the final blow was heartbreaking!
They broke up their friendship with her claiming that she had made fat jokes about them. She also had problems hurting them repeatedly with her mean comments to them.
Now….first…these girls are bullies! They both say the meanest things to her and everyone. Each of them continually make fat jokes about each other and other big people their size.
It broke my daughter’s heart. When she tried to reconcile with them….they were relentless and unforgiving (even though there was no truth to the claims!).
It was a real eyeopener for her.
You are so right……you cannot change anyone’s mind….don’t even defend yourself. Just apologize and move on. The choice to sin now belongs to the other person.

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