Comments on: “Questions” and Answers to Spanking http://1smartmom.com/2007/07/24/questions-and-answers-to-spanking/ Nurturing Moms from Marriage to Motherhood & Everything in Between! Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:46:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: j http://1smartmom.com/2007/07/24/questions-and-answers-to-spanking/#comment-19181 j Sat, 11 Oct 2008 02:20:56 +0000 http://1smartmom.com/index.php/2007/07/24/questions-and-answers-to-spanking/#comment-19181 i used to lightly swat my children's bums when they were toddlers if they were doing things unsafe. i then stopped for years due to social ideas about how bad spanking can be. the result has been that i now have a 9 year old daughter who is rude, bossy, disrespectful and incorrigible. i have decided to get back to basics and have started spanking again. i hope i can get it through her head that this kind of disrespect for me and others will not be tolerated any longer. i used to lightly swat my children’s bums when they were toddlers if they were doing things unsafe. i then stopped for years due to social ideas about how bad spanking can be. the result has been that i now have a 9 year old daughter who is rude, bossy, disrespectful and incorrigible. i have decided to get back to basics and have started spanking again. i hope i can get it through her head that this kind of disrespect for me and others will not be tolerated any longer.

]]> By: Becky http://1smartmom.com/2007/07/24/questions-and-answers-to-spanking/#comment-15586 Becky Thu, 26 Jul 2007 06:13:23 +0000 http://1smartmom.com/index.php/2007/07/24/questions-and-answers-to-spanking/#comment-15586 How refreshing--- another Mom who admits she spanks and also has a rational discussion of it. I am pro-spanking. And I do not consider it just a "last resort". The thing with me is I actually believe that talking with kids usually is effective. But, there are times when punishment is called for--and I have come to believe that spanking is more effective, and actually fairer than the time outs, etc--it is over quickly, the point is made and we can move on. As a result my daughter is punished less than most kids, but she is spanked more. I have actually done some research on this issue and the surprising thing is how deeply flawed are the studies finding that spanking will not only make your child into a violent psychopath but is responsible for many of the ills of the world. The studies are deeply flawed and inconclusive at best. The ironic thing is that there are actually a couple of very good studies (from a methodological and statistical standpoint) which found that spanking not only does not make children violent, but is the MOST effective way to get them to comply with their parents' wishes. Of course, these are never mentioned in the main stream press or in the parenting books. But I mainly spank--because of the results I have seen since I started spanking ( although I was spanked as a child, when I went to college, under the influence of psychology and education professors, I begain to believe how totally barbaric it was and was grateful I was not a neurotic mess--especially since I was usually spanked in the very worst way--on my bare fanny). I do think, and not long ago I saw a survey which confirmed this, that a lot of us younger parents are spanking more. I think we are just sick of all the brats and Supernanny nonsense. The no spanking social experiment, which started in the 1950's, has been an utter failure. Sorry to go on so long and rant--but I stumbled upon this blog and needed to vent. I really need to do a series on this subject on my blog. So far I have been reluctant to do so because people get so hysterical about it. But one of these days I will bite the bullet and do a whole series. ~Becky How refreshing— another Mom who admits she spanks and also has a rational discussion of it.

I am pro-spanking. And I do not consider it just a “last resort”. The thing with me is I actually believe that talking with kids usually is effective. But, there are times when punishment is called for–and I have come to believe that spanking is more effective, and actually fairer than the time outs, etc–it is over quickly, the point is made and we can move on.

As a result my daughter is punished less than most kids, but she is spanked more.

I have actually done some research on this issue and the surprising thing is how deeply flawed are the studies finding that spanking will not only make your child into a violent psychopath but is responsible for many of the ills of the world.

The studies are deeply flawed and inconclusive at best. The ironic thing is that there are actually a couple of very good studies (from a methodological and statistical standpoint) which found that spanking not only does not make children violent, but is the MOST effective way to get them to comply with their parents’ wishes. Of course, these are never mentioned in the main stream press or in the parenting books.

But I mainly spank–because of the results I have seen since I started spanking ( although I was spanked as a child, when I went to college, under the influence of psychology and education professors, I begain to believe how totally barbaric it was and was grateful I was not a neurotic mess–especially since I was usually spanked in the very worst way–on my bare fanny).

I do think, and not long ago I saw a survey which confirmed this, that a lot of us younger parents are spanking more. I think we are just sick of all the brats and Supernanny nonsense.

The no spanking social experiment, which started in the 1950′s, has been an utter failure.

Sorry to go on so long and rant–but I stumbled upon this blog and needed to vent. I really need to do a series on this subject on my blog. So far I have been reluctant to do so because people get so hysterical about it. But one of these days I will bite the bullet and do a whole series.

~Becky

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