Comments on: Questions on Bullies and Spanking

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 17:53:06 +0000

I am a regular contributor to this website. Not just posting comments, but I am the writer of Journeys with Kelly. On a couple of occasions I have challenged Angel with a new thought or idea.
She has been willing and open to discuss them with me. She has a high standard for this website and her personal life. That said.
Spanking is a very personal choice and I feel that it is very important not to judge someone in this area. You do not know that persons heart. Only God sees that. We should all think before we speak or judge someone about how they raise their children. You have not walked in their shoes. Spanking may not be an effective form of discipline in your home, you may choose not to spank or may choose to spank. All of these choices will work if we as moms determine to teach our children the Godly values that we hold. Raising Godly children is the ultimate goal. All of us must find what we think is right through prayer and reading the scripture. Thanks Angel for sharing your views and being willing to respond.

By: Shalom

Shalom — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 15:27:35 +0000

You know what’s great about life? It proves itself. When you’re children are older and disciplined because spanking was a part of a disciplinary action you chose in order to socialize them, the results will speak for themselves.
Spanking is very effective with some children and not effective at all with others (Caleb and Jill’s brother Jared could get spanked and nothing would change). If controlled spanking produces change in behavior, then the proof is in the pudding. I think calling it abuse is extreme. If God says it’s okay to spank, perhaps it’s okay. Spanking may be why there’s extra padding on the bottom.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 13:06:22 +0000

Vanessa~ why would you make such a blanket statement without a supportive explanation? Angel simply stated one method that she uses in disciplining HER children. Whether you agree or not, it seems pretty harsh to accuse someone (especially someone you do not know) of abusing their children. She did not ask you impliment these same ideals in your own life.

By: Angel

Angel — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 11:40:05 +0000

I am so sorry that you feel that way. While I know that some may not agree with spanking, as I stated in my other post about spanking, which you can read here , there is a line between spanking and abuse. I do not feel that I am abusing my children. The reason I hold them in this position is because I do not want to harm them, or them accidentally harm themselves, in any damaging way. Children naturally resist discipline, even non-corporal, but in this they may not understand that fighting me can cause them to get seriously hurt. Spankings are reserved for serious offenses, and I would much rather spank my toddler on her bottom 2 or 3 times, than her run in the street, and possibly be hit by a car. And yes this is a real example of when I have used spanking. Lisa Whelchel said once on Good Morning America, "I would rather cause a little pain to them now from someone that loves them, than for them to endure a lot of pain later" as a result of not knowing how to listen when it is important. This position I hold them in allows me to spank on the bottom, without hitting any other body parts they may react with. The actual hold I have on them is not hurting in any way. It is helpful to them. It also allows me to not be angry but to be thoughtful and careful in the discipline I use. I love my children dearly, and I discipline because I love them. Spanking is only one form of discipline I use.

By: vanessa

vanessa — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 02:07:16 +0000

you are abusing your children.