http://1smartmom.com/2006/10/25/rewards-or-bribes/ Nurturing Moms from Marriage to Motherhood & Everything in Between! Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:46:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://1smartmom.com/2006/10/25/rewards-or-bribes/#comment-544 Kelly Krause Wed, 25 Oct 2006 11:51:56 +0000 http://1smartmom.com/index.php/2006/10/25/rewards-or-bribes/#comment-544 Yes! You've got it right not taking Starbucks away. Just a few weeks ago Zach had a major discipline issue. We gave the consequences of spanking, loss of TV and video game privilige, and scripture writing to the character issue involved. This was a very big offense! But we did not remove Zach's time spent with Dad at Incredible Pizza. We purposely go out of town sometimes so that David is forced to only spend time with Zach. (Works for us, not everyone). My husband is a driven guy with his own business, so when Zach's Dad tank gets really low we head out of town to Branson or Tulsa. Me, I don't complain...I can usually get in a few hours of shopping on my own. And I get to ride roller coasters if we go to Branson. All that to say. Angel is right! Don't use your relationship building time as a consequence for wrong behavior. Yes! You’ve got it right not taking Starbucks away. Just a few weeks ago Zach had a major discipline issue. We gave the consequences of spanking, loss of TV and video game privilige, and scripture writing to the character issue involved. This was a very big offense! But we did not remove Zach’s time spent with Dad at Incredible Pizza. We purposely go out of town sometimes so that David is forced to only spend time with Zach.
(Works for us, not everyone). My husband is a driven guy with his own business, so when Zach’s Dad tank gets really low we head out of town to Branson or Tulsa. Me, I don’t complain…I can usually get in a few hours of shopping on my own. And I get to ride roller coasters if we go to Branson. All that to say.
Angel is right! Don’t use your relationship building time as a consequence for wrong behavior.

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